Sex toys have come a long way from being taboo objects hidden in sock drawers. Today, they’re recognized as legitimate wellness products that can enhance pleasure, relieve stress, and even help address certain sexual health concerns.

As Dr. Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT and CST explains, “Sex toys can keep things exciting and make it easy to experiment alone or as a couple. Little by little, it’s become less taboo to use toys like vibrators, and that’s a good thing. Adult toys help us destress and get to know our bodies. Position aids, penis rings, and similar products can even support sexual wellbeing as we age or face physical disabilities.”

The statistics back this up too. The global sex toy market has been growing steadily, with more people embracing these products as part of their sexual wellness routine.

Vibrators

These are probably what most people think of when they hear “sex toy.” Vibrators come in countless varieties, each designed for different types of stimulation:

• Bullet vibrators: Small, discreet, and perfect for beginners
• Wand vibrators: Powerful external stimulators that deliver intense sensations
• Rabbit vibrators: Dual-action toys that stimulate both internally and externally
• G-spot vibrators: Curved to target the G-spot
• Clitoral stimulators: Focused on external pleasure
• Couples vibrators: Designed to be used during partnered sex

Dildos

While vibrators buzz and pulse, dildos are non-vibrating insertable toys. They come in various materials, sizes, and designs:

• Realistic: Mimicking human anatomy
• Non-realistic: Abstract shapes that focus on function over form
• Suction cup: Can attach to flat surfaces for hands-free play
• Double-ended: For sharing or dual stimulation
• Glass or metal: For temperature play and firm pressure

Fun fact: The oldest discovered dildo dates back approximately 28,000 years and was made of stone! We’ve certainly come a long way in materials since then.

Male Masturbators

These toys are designed primarily for penis owners:

• Sleeves: Textured tubes that simulate various orifices
• Automatic masturbators: Motorized options that do the work for you
• Prostate massagers: Target the “male G-spot” for intense sensations
• Cock rings: Enhance erections and sensations

Anal Toys

Designed specifically with anal play in mind, these always feature a flared base for safety:

• Butt plugs: For fullness and pressure
• Anal beads: Provide sensation when inserted and removed
• Prostate massagers: Curved to hit the P-spot
• Anal training kits: For beginners working up to larger toys

BDSM and Bondage Gear

For those interested in power play:

• Restraints: Handcuffs, ankle cuffs, under-bed systems
• Impact toys: Paddles, floggers, crops
• Sensation play: Blindfolds, feathers, temperature toys
• Electrostimulation: For those seeking unique sensations

The material of your sex toy affects everything from sensation to safety. Here’s a quick breakdown:

I always recommend body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, glass, or metal. These materials are non-porous, meaning they won’t harbor bacteria when properly cleaned.

With thousands of options available, how do you find the right toy for you? Here are some questions to consider:

1. What kind of stimulation do you enjoy? Pinpoint vs. broad, internal vs. external, gentle vs. intense
2. What’s your experience level? Beginners might want something simple and versatile
3. What’s your budget? Quality toys range from $30 to $200+
4. Do you need discretion? Consider size, noise level, and appearance
5. What features matter to you? Waterproof, rechargeable, app-controlled?

Remember, there’s no “perfect” toy that works for everyone. Our bodies and preferences are all different. Many people end up with a collection of toys for different moods and desires.

Batteries vs. Rechargeable？

Modern sex toys offer various power options:

• Battery-operated: Ready to use anytime (with batteries), often less expensive
• Rechargeable: More eco-friendly, often more powerful, saves money long-term
• Plug-in: Maximum power (like the famous Magic Wand)
• Manual: No power needed, never dies during use

The trend is definitely moving toward rechargeable toys, often with USB charging for convenience. Many high-end toys now offer 1-2 hours of play on a single charge.

The sex toy industry hasn’t missed out on the tech revolution. Today’s “smart” toys offer features like:

• App control: Adjust settings from your smartphone
• Long-distance play: Let a partner control your toy from anywhere in the world
• Custom patterns: Create your perfect vibration sequence
• Music sync: Vibrate to the beat of your favorite songs
• Virtual reality integration: Sync with adult content for immersive experiences

These innovations have been especially valuable for long-distance relationships and people with mobility limitations.

When it comes to purchasing sex toys, quality and authenticity matter. Here are some reputable options:

• Dedicated adult retailers: Stores like EXSHA, Lovehoney, Adam & Eve, and PinkCherry offer wide selections and discreet shipping
• Boutique shops: Often provide curated selections and knowledgeable staff
• Direct from manufacturers: Ensures you’re getting the authentic product

Wherever you shop, look for these signs of a reputable seller:

• Clear information about materials
• Detailed product descriptions
• Fair return policies (though often limited for hygiene reasons)
• Discreet shipping and billing
• Customer reviews and ratings

I’d recommend avoiding marketplaces like Amazon for sex toys, as they often have issues with counterfeit products that may use unsafe materials.

Customer reviews can provide valuable insights. Here are some real experiences from sex toy users:

There’s sometimes concern that introducing toys into a relationship might suggest dissatisfaction, but the opposite is often true. Many therapists and relationship experts recommend toys as a way to enhance communication and mutual pleasure.

Some benefits of using toys with a partner:

• Adds variety and new sensations
• Can help address different arousal patterns or needs
• Creates opportunities to communicate about desires
• Takes pressure off performance concerns
• Makes foreplay more creative and exciting

The key is communication – talking openly about interests, boundaries, and how toys can complement (not replace) what you already enjoy together.