Male Masturbators

Male masturbators are sex toys designed specifically for penis stimulation. Unlike your hand, these toys feature textured interiors, realistic materials, and sometimes even vibrating or automatic functions that create sensations impossible to achieve manually.

Think of them as the male equivalent to vibrators and dildos—they’re tools designed to enhance pleasure, explore new sensations, and yes, potentially deliver more intense orgasms.

The variety of male masturbators available today is pretty impressive. Let’s break down the main categories so you can figure out which might work best for you:

Strokers and Sleeves

These are the simplest and most affordable options. Usually made from soft, stretchy materials, strokers are compact cylinders with textured interiors. They’re great for beginners because they’re easy to use, affordable, and often quite discreet.

Fleshlights

Probably the most recognized name in male masturbators, Fleshlights feature a realistic-feeling sleeve housed in a discreet container that resembles a flashlight (hence the name). They come in various textures and orifice styles (vaginal, oral, anal) and are known for their durability and quality.

Realistic Masturbators

These models are designed to look and feel like real body parts. Some are modeled after adult film stars, adding a fantasy element to your experience. They typically feature realistic openings and anatomically correct details.

Vibrating Masturbators

Adding vibration to the mix, these toys provide additional stimulation beyond just the texture of the sleeve. Some offer multiple vibration patterns and intensities for customized pleasure.

Automatic Masturbators

For a truly hands-free experience, automatic masturbators do all the work for you. They may stroke, vibrate, or pulse with programmable patterns and speeds. While typically more expensive, they offer an experience that’s impossible to replicate manually.

Blow Job Simulators

Specifically designed to replicate oral sex, these toys focus on the head and frenulum of the penis with suction and tongue-like textures.

The material of your masturbator significantly impacts your experience, maintenance requirements, and the toy’s lifespan:

TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer) and TPR (Thermoplastic Rubber)

Most affordable masturbators are made from these soft, pliable materials. They feel realistic and are inexpensive, but they’re porous, meaning they can harbor bacteria and have a shorter lifespan.

Silicone

Higher-end options often use silicone, which is non-porous, hypoallergenic, and more durable. While typically more expensive, silicone toys last longer and are easier to clean thoroughly.

Cyberskin/Realistic Materials

These proprietary blends aim to mimic human skin in texture and feel. They’re incredibly realistic but require special care to maintain their quality.

Hard Plastic

Often used for the exterior casing of masturbators like Fleshlights, hard plastic provides durability and structure while allowing for discreet storage.

I remember my first time using a masturbator—I had no idea what I was doing! Here’s what I wish someone had told me:

1. Warm it up (optional): For a more realistic feel, consider warming your toy by soaking it in warm (not hot) water for a few minutes before use.

2. Lube, lube, lube: This isn’t optional! Apply plenty of compatible lubricant to both yourself and the toy’s opening and interior. This prevents friction and makes the experience much more pleasurable.

3. Take it slow: Start with gentle, slow movements to get accustomed to the sensation. Adjust your grip and technique until you find what feels best.

4. Experiment with positions: Try using your masturbator in different positions—standing, lying down, or seated can all provide different sensations.

5. Incorporate fantasy: Use visual aids, fantasies, or even VR content to enhance your experience.

6. Clean immediately after use: Don’t put off cleaning—it’s easier when fluids haven’t dried, and proper maintenance extends your toy’s life.

Using the right lubricant is crucial for both your pleasure and your toy’s longevity. Here’s what you need to know:

Water-Based Lubricants

These are generally the safest option for all masturbator materials. They won’t damage your toy, clean up easily, and come in various thicknesses and formulations.

Silicone-Based Lubricants

These last longer without reapplication but can damage silicone toys. Only use with masturbators explicitly labeled as compatible with silicone lube.

Oil-Based Lubricants

Avoid these with most masturbators as they can degrade many materials and are difficult to clean out of textured surfaces.

Hybrid Lubricants

These water/silicone blends offer a middle ground but check compatibility with your specific toy material.

Pro tip: When in doubt, water-based lube is always the safest choice. And remember—you’ll probably need more than you think!

I can’t stress this enough: proper cleaning is essential for both hygiene and extending your toy’s lifespan. Here’s a simple cleaning routine:

1. Rinse immediately: As soon as you’re finished, rinse your toy with warm water to remove bodily fluids before they dry.

2. Wash thoroughly: Use mild, unscented soap or a specialized toy cleaner to clean all surfaces, paying special attention to textured areas.

3. Rinse completely: Ensure all soap is rinsed away to prevent irritation during future use.

4. Dry properly: Allow your toy to air dry completely before storage. For toys with complex internal textures, you might need to use a clean towel to assist with drying.

5. Apply renewal powder (if needed): For TPE/TPR materials that become tacky after washing, apply a light dusting of cornstarch (often sold as “renewal powder”) once completely dry.

6. Store properly: Keep your clean, dry toy in a cool, dark place away from dust and other toys.

While most people think of masturbators as solo toys, they can also add exciting dimensions to partner play:

For Solo Use

Masturbators can help you explore new sensations, practice stamina training, and simply enhance your alone time. Some men find that varying their masturbation technique with toys helps prevent death grip syndrome (reduced sensitivity from too-firm manual stimulation).

With Partners

Your partner can use a masturbator on you as part of foreplay or as an alternative when they’re not in the mood for other activities. Some couples enjoy watching each other use toys, and masturbators can be great for long-distance relationships when paired with video calls.

I’ve found that introducing toys into partner play works best when discussed openly beforehand. Present it as an exciting addition to your repertoire rather than a replacement for your partner.

If discretion is important to you, consider these options:

1. Cup-style masturbators: These look like ordinary containers and don’t immediately read as sex toys.

2. Travel-friendly options: Many brands offer smaller, more portable versions of their popular masturbators specifically designed for travel.

3. Storage solutions: Consider investing in a lockable storage case or bag if you’re concerned about privacy at home.

4. Neutral designs: Some premium masturbators focus on function over form, with sleek, non-anatomical designs that wouldn’t raise eyebrows if accidentally discovered.

The EXSHA line offers several discreet options that provide incredible stimulation without obvious anatomical designs—perfect if you share living space with roommates or family members.

With so many options, how do you choose? Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1. What’s your budget? There are quality options at every price point, from $20 basic strokers to $300+ automatic devices.

2. What sensation are you looking for? Different textures and designs create different sensations—intense stimulation, realistic feel, focused head stimulation, etc.

3. How important is discretion? This affects both the appearance and noise level of your choice.

4. How much maintenance are you willing to do? More complex toys with intricate textures require more thorough cleaning.

5. Do you want realism or something different? Some men prefer anatomically realistic toys, while others prefer non-representational designs that focus purely on sensation.

Are male masturbators safe?

Yes, when used as directed with appropriate lubricant and cleaned properly after each use. Choose body-safe materials and replace your toy if you notice any tears, discoloration, or unusual odors.

Will using a masturbator decrease sensitivity?

When used in moderation as part of a varied self-pleasure routine, masturbators shouldn’t cause sensitivity issues. In fact, some men find that switching from very firm hand grip to a masturbator actually helps restore sensitivity.

Can I use a masturbator in the shower?

It depends on the specific toy. Some are designed to be waterproof, while others should be kept dry. Check the manufacturer’s instructions for your specific model. Water-resistant toys are great for shower play but remember that water isn’t a substitute for proper lubricant.

How long do masturbators last?

With proper care, high-quality silicone masturbators can last for years. TPE/TPR toys typically last 6-12 months with regular use before showing signs of deterioration. The lifespan depends greatly on frequency of use, cleaning practices, and material quality.

Are expensive masturbators worth it?

In my experience, there’s definitely a quality difference between budget and premium options. Higher-end toys typically offer better materials, more thoughtful designs, and greater durability. However, there are excellent mid-range options that provide great value without breaking the bank.

Once you’re comfortable with basic masturbators, you might want to explore these advanced options:

Temperature Play

Some masturbators can be warmed for a more realistic feel. Dedicated warming rods or simply soaking in warm water can enhance the sensation.

VR Compatibility

Certain high-tech masturbators can sync with virtual reality content for an immersive experience.

App Control

Advanced models connect to smartphone apps allowing for customized patterns, remote control by a partner, or synchronization with adult content.

Prostate Stimulation Combinations

Some masturbators include features for simultaneous prostate stimulation, offering whole-body orgasms.