Vibrators

At its most basic, a vibrator is a sex toy with an internal motor that creates vibrations. While traditionally designed for clitoral stimulation, today’s vibrators come in countless shapes, sizes, and designs intended for all kinds of pleasure—internal, external, or both simultaneously.

These versatile toys can help you:

• Explore your body and discover new erogenous zones
• Stimulate hard-to-reach areas like the G-spot or prostate
• Enhance solo play or partner experiences
• Achieve more intense or different types of orgasms
• Add variety to your sexual wellness routine

The vibrator market has exploded with options, each designed with specific pleasure goals in mind. Let’s break down the most popular types:

Bullet Vibrators

Small but mighty, bullet vibrators are perfect entry-level toys. About the size of your thumb, these compact powerhouses deliver concentrated vibrations to specific areas. Their versatility makes them ideal for targeting the clitoris, nipples, or any external erogenous zone.

I love recommending bullets to beginners because they’re non-intimidating, affordable, and incredibly versatile. They’re also discreet enough to toss in your purse or travel bag.

Wand Massagers

Originally marketed as “back massagers” (wink, wink), wand vibrators feature a long handle with a rounded head that delivers powerful, rumbly vibrations. The iconic Hitachi Magic Wand pioneered this category, but today’s market offers numerous variations.

Wands are known for their intense power, making them perfect for those who need stronger stimulation. They’re also versatile enough to use as actual body massagers—talk about a multipurpose investment!

Rabbit Vibrators

Named for their distinctive shape, rabbit vibrators offer dual stimulation with an insertable shaft for internal pleasure and “rabbit ears” that stimulate the clitoris simultaneously. This design aims to provide the coveted blended orgasm—a combination of internal and external stimulation.

Modern rabbits have evolved beyond the basic design, with various shapes for the external stimulator and different motions for the internal portion (rotating, thrusting, or vibrating).

G-Spot Vibrators

These curved toys are specifically designed to target the G-spot, an erogenous zone located about 1-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. The curved tip applies pressure and vibration to this sensitive area, potentially leading to intense internal orgasms or even squirting for some people.

Clitoral Suction Vibrators

A relatively new innovation, these toys use air pressure technology to create a sucking or pulsing sensation around the clitoris rather than direct vibration. Many users report these toys provide sensations that more closely mimic oral sex, and they can create powerful orgasms very quickly.

When I first tried one, I was genuinely shocked at how different the sensation was from traditional vibrators—definitely worth exploring if you enjoy oral stimulation!

Prostate Massagers

Designed specifically for prostate stimulation, these vibrators have a curved shape to reach the prostate gland (sometimes called the male G-spot). They often feature a wider base for safety during anal play and may include an external portion to stimulate the perineum simultaneously.

Remote Control Vibrators

Perfect for partner play or hands-free enjoyment, these vibrators can be controlled via remote or even smartphone apps. Some are designed for public play (with a partner controlling the vibrations from across the room or across the world), while others simply free up your hands during solo sessions.

Finger Vibrators

These small vibrators attach to your fingers, enhancing manual stimulation with vibration. They’re great for partnered sex when you want to add vibration without a bulky toy coming between you.

With so many options, finding the right vibrator can feel overwhelming. Here’s a systematic approach to narrowing down your choices:

1. Consider Your Experience Level

For beginners:

• Start with something non-intimidating and versatile like a bullet vibrator
• Look for toys with simple controls and fewer features
• Consider lower-priced options while you discover your preferences

For experienced users:

• Focus on specific sensations you know you enjoy
• Consider investing in higher-quality materials and more powerful motors
• Explore toys with multiple functions or unique features

2. Think About How You Want to Use It

Ask yourself these questions:

• Do you want internal stimulation, external stimulation, or both?
• Will you use it solo, with a partner, or both?
• Are you looking for G-spot, prostate, or clitoral stimulation?
• Do you want something waterproof for bath/shower play?
• Is discretion (in terms of noise and appearance) important?

3. Material Matters

The material of your vibrator affects how it feels, how you clean it, and even its safety. Here’s a comparison of common materials:

I always recommend body-safe, non-porous materials like silicone, ABS plastic, or stainless steel whenever possible. Your intimate areas deserve the best!

4. Power Source

Battery-powered:

• Pros: Usually cheaper, portable, no charging needed
• Cons: Less powerful, ongoing battery cost, potential battery death mid-session

Rechargeable:

• Pros: More powerful, environmentally friendly, often quieter
• Cons: Higher initial cost, must remember to charge, battery life decreases over time

Plug-in:

• Pros: Maximum consistent power, never dies during use
• Cons: Limited by cord length, less discreet, less portable

5. Noise Level

If you have roommates, thin walls, or simply prefer discretion, noise level becomes an important factor. Generally:

• Bullet vibrators tend to be quieter
• More powerful motors tend to be louder
• Rechargeable toys are often quieter than battery-operated ones
• Look for “whisper quiet” claims in product descriptions

EXSHA online sex toy store now include decibel ratings or subjective noise assessments in their product details.

Once you’ve narrowed down the type, material, and power source, you might want to consider these additional features:

Vibration Patterns and Intensity Levels

More options give you room to explore, but can also mean a steeper learning curve. Consider:

• How many intensity levels (typically 3-10)
• Whether it has pulsing/pattern options beyond steady vibration
• If you prefer “rumbly” (deeper) or “buzzy” (more surface-level) vibrations

Waterproof vs. Water-Resistant

Fully waterproof toys can be submerged, making them perfect for bath or shower play. Water-resistant toys can handle some splashes but shouldn’t be submerged. This distinction matters both for how you’ll use it and how you’ll clean it.

Smart Features

The tech revolution has reached the vibrator world with features like:

• App control for long-distance play
• Toys that sync with music or audiobooks
• Self-heating options
• Movement-responsive vibrations

While these features can be fun, they also add complexity and cost. Consider whether they truly enhance your experience or just add bells and whistles.

A quality vibrator is an investment in your pleasure, and proper care ensures it stays in top condition:

Cleaning

Always clean your vibrator before first use and after each subsequent use. The cleaning method depends on the material and whether it’s waterproof:

• For waterproof toys: Wash with mild soap and warm water
• For non-waterproof toys: Use a damp cloth with toy cleaner or mild soap
• For porous materials: Consider using a condom during use for easier cleaning

Storage

Store your vibrator in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Many come with storage pouches, which help protect them from dust and lint. Keep batteries separate when not in use to prevent corrosion.

Battery Care

For rechargeable toys, avoid letting the battery completely drain, and don’t leave it plugged in for extended periods after reaching full charge. For battery-operated toys, remove batteries during long periods of non-use.

Whether you’re new to vibrators or looking to enhance your experience, these tips can help:

Solo Play Tips

1. Start slow: Begin with the lowest setting and work your way up
2. Use lubricant: A water-based lube reduces friction and enhances sensation
3. Explore your body: Don’t just focus on genitals—try your vibrator on nipples, inner thighs, and other erogenous zones
4. Experiment with positions: Changing positions can dramatically alter sensations
5. Mix it up: Combine vibrator use with manual stimulation or fantasy

Partner Play Tips

1. Communicate openly: Discuss incorporating toys before bringing them to bed
2. Start as foreplay: Use the vibrator during foreplay to ease into toy play
3. Hand over control: Let your partner control the vibrator for an exciting power dynamic
4. Find positions that work: Experiment to find positions where the vibrator enhances rather than interferes
5. Reassure each other: Remember that toys complement rather than replace human touch

Let’s address some persistent myths about vibrators:

Myth 1: Vibrators will desensitize you or make partner sex less enjoyable.
Reality: There’s no scientific evidence supporting this. While you might experience temporary numbness from extended use (just take a break!), regular vibrator use doesn’t cause permanent desensitization.

Myth 2: Using vibrators means something is wrong with you or your relationship.
Reality: Vibrators are simply tools for pleasure, like any other sex toy. They can enhance solo play and partnered sex alike.

Myth 3: Vibrators are just for women.
Reality: People of all genders can enjoy vibrators! There are designs specifically for penises, prostates, and universal designs everyone can enjoy.

Myth 4: You need to spend a fortune to get a good vibrator.
Reality: While premium options exist, there are plenty of quality, body-safe vibrators available at reasonable prices, especially for beginners.

Vibrators aren’t just about fun—they offer legitimate health and wellness benefits:

1. Stress relief: Orgasms release endorphins that reduce stress and promote relaxation
2. Better sleep: That post-orgasm drowsiness can help combat insomnia
3. Menstrual pain relief: Orgasms can reduce cramps for some people
4. Improved mood: Sexual pleasure is linked to better overall mood and reduced anxiety
5. Sexual self-knowledge: Vibrators help you learn what you enjoy, improving communication with partners

As one EXSHA customer shared, Emily Johnson, said, “My vibrator isn’t just about pleasure—it’s self-care. After a stressful day, it’s the fastest way to relax my mind and body.”

Online vs. In-Store

Online advantages:

• Privacy and discretion
• Wider selection
• Ability to research and read reviews
• Often better prices

In-store advantages:

• Can see and feel the products (though not test them)
• Immediate purchase
• Expert advice from staff
• No shipping wait

What to Look for in a Retailer

Whether shopping online or in-store, look for retailers that:

• Provide detailed product information
• Use body-safe materials
• Offer discreet shipping and billing
• Have clear return policies (though most retailers don’t accept returns on used intimate products)
• Provide customer support for questions

EXSHA prides itself on meeting all these criteria, with discreet shipping, detailed product information, and a customer service team ready to answer any questions.

Nothing speaks to a vibrator’s quality like real user experiences. Here are some insights from EXSHA customers: