Anal Butt Plugs

Simply put, a butt plug is a sex toy specifically designed for anal stimulation. Unlike other anal toys, butt plugs are meant to be inserted and then left in place, creating a feeling of fullness and pressure that many find pleasurable.

The typical butt plug has a few key features:

• A tapered tip for comfortable insertion
• A bulbous middle section for sensation
• A narrow neck that allows the sphincter muscles to close somewhat
• A flared base that prevents the toy from being fully inserted (this is SUPER important for safety)

These toys come in various sizes, materials, and designs to suit different preferences and experience levels. And contrary to some misconceptions, they’re enjoyed by people of all genders and sexual orientations.

There are tons of reasons why someone might incorporate a butt plug into their pleasure routine:

• Solo play enhancement: They can provide stimulation during masturbation
• Preparation for anal sex: They can help relax the muscles before penetration
• Added sensation during sex: Many people enjoy the feeling of fullness during vaginal sex or oral sex
• Prostate stimulation: For people with prostates, these toys can target this highly sensitive area
• Psychological thrill: Some enjoy the taboo or “naughty” feeling
• Public play: Some couples use them discreetly as part of their foreplay outside the bedroom

As one EXSHA customer shared: “Using a butt plug during sex completely transformed my orgasms. The extra pressure and fullness create sensations I never knew were possible.”

If you’re new to anal play, selecting the right first plug is crucial. Here’s what to consider:

Size Matters (A Lot)

For beginners, smaller is definitely better. Look for plugs labeled specifically for beginners, usually with diameters around 0.75-1 inch. You can always work your way up to larger sizes as you become more comfortable.

As one first-timer told me, “I was tempted to go bigger, thinking the small ones wouldn’t do much. Thank goodness I started small! Even a modest-sized plug feels substantial when you’re new to anal play.”

Material Considerations

The material of your butt plug affects everything from sensation to cleaning requirements:

For your first plug, body-safe silicone is often the best choice. It’s gentle on sensitive areas while still being durable and easy to clean.

Base Style

The base of your plug serves a critical safety function, but different styles offer various benefits:

• Circular base: The classic design, good for solo play
• T-bar base: More comfortable for extended wear, fits between the cheeks
• Jeweled base: Adds a decorative element many partners find visually appealing
• Tail base: Offers a playful aesthetic for role-play scenarios

One EXSHA customer noted: “I started with a basic circular base but switched to a T-bar design when I wanted something I could comfortably wear for longer periods. The difference in comfort was night and day.”

Safety should always be your top priority with anal play. Here’s how to ensure a positive experience:

Preparation Is Key

1. Clean your toy: Always wash your butt plug thoroughly before and after use with mild soap and warm water (or follow manufacturer’s cleaning instructions).

2. Prepare yourself: Some people prefer to shower or use an anal douche before play, though this isn’t strictly necessary.

3. Lube, lube, and more lube: Unlike other body parts, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Use plenty of lubricant specifically designed for anal play. If your toy is silicone, use water-based lube only—silicone lube can damage silicone toys.

4. Start relaxed: Take deep breaths and make sure you’re in a comfortable position. Anxiety makes insertion more difficult and potentially uncomfortable.

Insertion Tips

I always tell first-timers: “The key is to go slow—then go even slower than that.”

1. Apply lube to both the toy and your anal opening.
2. Start by gently massaging the area with your fingers or the tip of the plug.
3. Take deep breaths and gently push the plug against your anus as you exhale.
4. If you feel resistance or discomfort, pause and add more lube.
5. Never force it—if it hurts, stop immediately.

Remember that insertion should never be painful. Discomfort is common for beginners, but actual pain is a sign to stop and reassess.

Removal

Removing a butt plug safely is just as important as insertion:

1. Add more lube if needed.
2. Relax your muscles through deep breathing.
3. Gently pull the base while bearing down slightly with your muscles.
4. Clean the toy thoroughly according to the manufacturer’s instructions.

Let’s clear up some misconceptions:

Myth: Butt plugs are only for gay men.
Reality: People of all genders and sexual orientations can enjoy anal play. The anus has thousands of nerve endings regardless of gender or orientation.

Myth: Using butt plugs will stretch you out permanently.
Reality: The anal sphincter is a muscle designed to stretch and return to its original shape. With proper use, butt plugs won’t cause permanent changes.

Myth: You need to work up to huge sizes.
Reality: Many people are perfectly content with smaller or medium-sized plugs and never feel the need to size up. It’s all about personal preference.

Myth: Butt plugs are dirty or unhygienic.
Reality: With proper cleaning and care, anal play can be perfectly hygienic. High-quality, non-porous materials like silicone, glass, and metal can be thoroughly sanitized.

As you become more comfortable with anal play, you might want to explore different sensations:

Vibrating Butt Plugs

These plugs contain motors that create vibrations, adding another dimension to the experience. Some have multiple vibration patterns and intensities, while others can be controlled remotely by a partner—perfect for discreet public play.

“My partner and I tried a remote-controlled vibrating plug on date night,” shares one EXSHA customer. “The secret thrill of them controlling my pleasure while we were out to dinner was incredibly exciting for both of us.”

Weighted Butt Plugs

Usually made of metal, these plugs have a satisfying heaviness that creates unique internal pressure. The weight provides a constant reminder of the plug’s presence, which many find arousing.

Inflatable Butt Plugs

These allow you to insert the plug and then pump it up to your desired size. They’re great for those who want to experiment with different levels of fullness without buying multiple plugs.

Training Kits

These sets include multiple plugs in progressively larger sizes, allowing you to gradually work your way up as your comfort level increases. They’re perfect for beginners who plan to explore anal play long-term.

Proper care extends the life of your toys and keeps them safe to use:

Cleaning

Always clean your butt plug before and after each use:

• Silicone, glass, and metal plugs can typically be washed with warm water and mild soap
• Some non-porous materials can be boiled or run through the dishwasher (without detergent)
• For toys with electronics, follow the manufacturer’s specific cleaning instructions
• Consider using specialized toy cleaners for convenience

Storage

Store your clean, dry butt plug in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Many quality plugs come with storage pouches to keep them clean and dust-free.

Inspection

Regularly check your toys for any signs of damage:

• Tears or deterioration in silicone
• Chips or cracks in glass
• Rust or tarnishing on metal

If you notice any damage, it’s time to replace the toy. Your body deserves only safe, intact products.

Communication is essential when introducing butt plugs into partnered activities:

1. Have an honest conversation: Discuss boundaries, interests, and concerns before bringing toys into the bedroom.

2. Start slow: Perhaps begin by having your partner massage the area with fingers before attempting to use the plug.

3. Consider position: For first-time insertion with a partner, positions where the receiver has control often work best.

4. Establish signals: Create clear communication for “slow down,” “add more lube,” or “stop.”

5. Focus on pleasure: Remember that the goal is mutual enjoyment, not just completing the act of insertion.

One couple I spoke with shared: “Adding butt plugs to our routine required honest communication at first, but now they’re a regular part of our play. The key was talking openly about our comfort levels and going at a pace that worked for both of us.”

For Complete Beginners

If you’re brand new to anal play, look for:

• Small size (around 0.75-1 inch diameter)
• Smooth, tapered design
• Soft, flexible material like silicone
• Simple shape without textured surfaces

EXSHA’s starter plugs are specifically designed with these features in mind, making them perfect first-time choices.

For Intermediate Users

Once you’re comfortable with beginner plugs, you might enjoy:

• Medium size (around 1.25-1.5 inch diameter)
• Different materials like glass or metal
• Vibrating options
• Plugs with slight texture or curves

For Advanced Users

Experienced users often appreciate:

• Larger sizes (1.75+ inch diameter)
• Weighted options
• Inflatable plugs
• Textured surfaces
• Plugs designed for extended wear

Q: How long can I safely wear a butt plug?
A: For beginners, start with just 1-2 hours maximum. As you become more experienced, some plugs are designed for extended wear (4-8 hours), but always listen to your body and remove it if you experience any discomfort.

Q: Can I use a butt plug if I have hemorrhoids?
A: It’s best to avoid anal play during flare-ups. If you have a history of hemorrhoids, consult with a healthcare provider before trying anal toys.

Q: Will using butt plugs affect bowel movements?
A: When used properly, butt plugs shouldn’t affect normal bowel function. However, it’s best to avoid using them if you’re experiencing digestive issues.

Q: Can a butt plug get lost inside me?
A: A properly designed butt plug with a flared base should never get fully inserted. This is why the flared base is such a crucial safety feature—never use anything without one for anal play.

Q: What if my partner isn’t interested in trying butt plugs?
A: Respect their boundaries. Not everyone enjoys the same activities, and pressuring someone can damage trust. Focus on the many other ways you can connect intimately.

To truly enjoy anal play, keep these tips in mind:

1. Be patient with yourself: There’s no rush. Some people take weeks or even months to become fully comfortable with anal play.

2. Combine with other stimulation: Many people find that combining butt plug use with other forms of stimulation (like clitoral, penile, or nipple play) creates the most pleasurable experience.

3. Experiment with temperature: Glass and metal plugs can be warmed in warm water or cooled in the refrigerator (never the freezer) for temperature play.

4. Try different positions: The sensation of a butt plug changes depending on your position—experiment to find what feels best for you.

5. Keep an open mind: Your preferences might evolve over time, so be willing to try different types of plugs as you become more experienced.